Gossip Defined

Stopping Gossip

During our seminars and when we are working with clients, supervisors and managers frequently mention how difficult it is to try and deal with the "gossip" and "rumors" that permeate the workplace. In response to our question, "What are you doing to stop the gossiping?" seminar participants typically respond, "We can't stop gossip." They further comment, "It's just part of the employee's personality!"

"Really," we say. "How does the gossiping behavior impact the workplace, as well as your ability, and that of your employees, in getting the job done?"

The answer to that last question brings about a transition in thinking as supervisors realize just how much gossip impacts the workplace. They typically respond as follows:

Gossip results in missed communications that often result in deadlines not being met, or work not getting done properly.

Gossip results in misunderstandings that quickly lead to conflict, and sometimes to such strained relationships that some employees can no longer work together effectively.

Gossip breaks down the trust level within the group, which results in employees second-guessing each other and ultimately running to the supervisor to clarify the directions or instructions, or to settle the differences that will arise.

Gossip is the death of team work as the group breaks up into small "clicks," and employees start refusing to work with others.

Gossip results in the supervisor spending an enormous amount of time trying to figure out who said what to whom, so the workgroup can accomplish the task(s) assigned. Or, worse yet, the supervisor struggles to explain to the manager that the on-going conflicts and communications problems within the workgroup are the reason work doesn't get done only to hear the manager comment, "Why can't you manage your team better?"

Gossip impacts productivity as staff use the employer's time to engage in the gossiping.

Gossip sometimes is so severe that the good employees, those that tend to not engage in the gossip, leave the workgroup.

Gossip is so overwhelming that supervisors find themselves going home at night so exhausted that they wonder if being a supervisor is worth the emotional toll it takes.

So, what can be done? Because gossip does impact the workplace as noted above, employers are well within their rights to try and stop the behavior. We believe that gossip is a serious workplace problem that can be managed. Let us clarify, manage doesn't mean the gossip will entirely disappear, but it can be contained to the point that the impact it has on the workplace is diminished. Before controlling gossip, however, we must first define what is meant by gossip and consider why an individual engages in "gossiping."

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Gossip Defined

Gossip is the primary mechanism for communicating and spreading negativity. For this reason, managers and supervisors need to take active steps to control gossip. We have found the definition that follows to be very helpful in nailing down what gossip means.

Gossip is defined as a form of communications that an individual(s) participates in for the purpose of discussion, or passing onto to others, "hearsay" information. Gossip is a very destructive, hurtful, and divisive form of communications that often permeates the workplace. There are employees that take great pleasure and spend a great deal of time gossiping and spreading rumors. Known as rumormongers, these individuals often participate in gossiping with other employees because they believe it increases their importance in the workplace and builds their self-esteem. Some employees may view this individual as being the "in-the-know" person in the workgroup.

Not a very flattering description of the gossiper is it? Yet, although we provide training directly to workgroups that are experiencing gossiping, so far we have not had a single seminar participant object to this definition. In some instances we have had some participants experience a realization as they saw their behavior defined for the first time. Participants have actually written on the seminar evaluation form that they didn't realize their own "gossiping" tendencies, the reason they engaged in the behavior, and finally, the impact it has on others. Pretty powerful stuff!

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Stopping Gossip

Now that we have defined gossip, what should an employer do about it? Although we may not be able to stomp out gossip, we can control and contain it. Here are some tips for controlling and containing workplace gossipers.

Communicate regularly and consistently with employees about what's going on in the workplace. Regular communications with employees minimizes the influence the gossiping employee has over others, because everyone is "in-the-know." If employees don't have good information from the supervisor about what is going on, they will make it up in the form of speculation and "gossip." Make communicating with employees an assignment on each day's calendar even if it is only for five minutes. The added attention and communications will work wonders in stopping the gossip.

Incorporate into the Workplace Expectations a segment that speaks to employees not engaging in the spreading of gossip and rumors. For example:

Do not participate in spreading gossip and rumors, and do not tolerate it from others. Rumor and gossip sabotages the team's ability to work together effectively. It is disrespectful, nonproductive, and a selfishly motivated act that impedes employees from performing their jobs.

If you hear about an issue that pertains directly to you, verify the accuracy of the information by asking the supervisor or the coworker involved, rather than simply passing on the information.

Tell the rumormonger/gossiping employee that you are aware of his/her behavior. Describe how his/her behavior results in others not trusting them because as a general rule no one wants to be the subject of the "gossip." For some, this single statement will be a realization that will result in immediate change. Often times the employee doesn't understand, fully, why he/she engages in the behavior, and the impact that his/her behavior has on his/her own creditability within the team. Finally, the supervisor has to describe the impact the employee's behavior has on the workplace and that his/her continued participation in the spreading of rumors and gossip is a violation of the Workplace Expectations.

A Workplace Expectation about gossiping gives permission to coworkers to hold each other mutually accountable for having a "gossip free" workplace. Have a discussion with employees, similar to the one at the beginning of this article, about the impact gossip has on the workplace. Most employees will come to the same conclusion that the supervisors did, namely, that gossip is problematic to our workplace and it can be controlled. This realization sets the tone for individual employees to commit to, and to hold each other accountable to, not engaging in gossip because they understand the negative impact the behavior has on them as individuals and on the workgroup as a whole.

Incorporate the impact the employee's behavior has had on the workplace in his/her performance evaluations, i.e., teamwork, working with minimal supervision, following procedures, cooperating with others.

In those instances when a "gossiper's" behavior results in conflict with others, consider whether you may want to discipline the individual for being disrespectful and disruptive to the workplace.

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**The information provided in this document is for information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.**

REV 1/20/06